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January 10, 2013 / Dale Melchin

How to Avoid the Fate of Anakin Skywalker or Darth Vader

If I had one piece of advice to give you, it would be don’t allow yourself to turn out like Darth Vader or Anakin Skywalker.  As we all know from the classic story Anakin’s is truly tragic because he was deceived into become Darth Vader.  He made the choice to become the artificial man.  After he became Darth Vader, all that he did was inconsistent with his authentic self.  Too many times we make those mistakes like Vader did and here is how we mess up.

We believe a lie.  Those lies may be foisted upon us by others, or they may originate from our own erroneous thinking.  In the case of Anakin Skywalker, his inability stave off the dark side was a function of his emotional attachment, and his friendship with Palpatine, and his force visions.  If Anakin would’ve given his thoughts the test of authenticity, he likely could’ve stopped Palpatine.  (I realize Lucas had a different goal in mind, but hopefully you get my point.)

For ourselves the lie may be that our job is our security, that we need money to be happy, or an attachment to a person etc, and as a result we subordinate ourselves to a goal or thing that is inconsistent with who we really are.  The lie maybe that we can’t achieve our goals or get what we really want out of life.  Those are all lies that are often foisted upon us either by the system as I referenced in my Matrix articles, or they may originate from our own minds.  Either way our thoughts must be tested for authenticity

We are involved in an unhealthy relationship at some level.  Anakin was friends with Palpatine.  He didn’t realize it until later that Palpatine was a sociopath manipulating the events of the galaxy.  Sometimes unhealthy relationships are subtle like that, other times they are more obvious.  I will say this.  If you are in an abusive relationship you need to extricate yourself from that situation immediately, and stay out of it.  In the case of people who are just generally emotionally unhealthy, but not abusive, if you can love them at a distance.  If not you may need to do some relational surgery.  Anakin would’ve been well served to stay in the Jedi temple and let Mace Windu handle it.  Or actually help Mace out.  At many points in the story Anakin could’ve been a hero instead of a tragedy.

So the bottom line?  How do we avoid Darth Vader’s fate?

Make authentic choices and avoid unhealthy relationships, think authentic thoughts.

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