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November 26, 2012 / Dale Melchin

The Futility of Fear

Fear, when used properly can be a life saver.  It enables us to run from danger and keep us away from avoidable harm.  The problem comes when fear becomes the ruling emotion and it debilitates us from achieving our goals or worse yet from even functioning.

Just so we are clear, I’m speaking mainly to people who are mildly debilitated by fear.  I’m not an LPC (yet).  If you have a clinical or chronic phobia, I’m not talking to you.  You should listen to your therapist and stay on whatever regimen he has you on to help you overcome your fear.

I’m talking to the rest of us who are mildly debilitated by fear.

Tom Hopkins once said, “Do what you fear most and you control the fear.”  He was speaking primarily to sales people who are generally scared to make new contacts to fill the funnel.  This concept has many applications, not just in sales.  Although… if you are a sales person, another great mentor of mine told me, you still have to fail forward, and fail you will until you get better at it.

If you have a fear of heights, you should play around on ladders and increase the height at which you stand until you are able to confidently go up and down ladders.

If you are afraid to execute on the plans that you’ve laid out, execute those plans, the fear will pass with time.

If you fear speaking in front of others, speak in front of others anyway and look them in the eye when you do.

If you fear death, visit a graveyard and recognize that this is the fate of all people, and accept it.  If you conquer the fear of death, you will vanquish all other fears and the way for you to achieve great things opens up to you.

What would conquering fear make possible for you?

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