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May 30, 2012 / Dale Melchin

Why Realism is Really a Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing

Since I’ve started working at my current job as a customer service rep at the nameless company (if you know me on Facebook you know where I work) I’ve been told by my cohorts that they are realists in contrast to my attempts to be positive and influence others to alter their character to a positively charged character.  This implies that my position is unrealistic, and their is reality.

To quote Stephen Covey loosely, those have are closer to the truth are those who realize they don’t have all the answers.  Those who claim to have all the answers are farther from it.  That’s a loaded statement that can be applied to many areas, however for the sake of our discussion we will apply it to one area.  Worldview.

Having had my stint over the last year (2011) of being negative I have consciously chosen to be positive in the face of contradictory circumstances.  Here are 3 reasons why you should choose to do the same.

1. Being realistic makes your worldview and consequences your actions and choices dependent upon external circumstances.

This is a problem on several levels.  The first is that you surrender your joy to your circumstances by basing your attitude or choices on your circumstances.  Second is that it limits your ability to work within those circumstances.  Viktor Frankel’s book Man’s Search for Meaning is a resounding no to the deterministic worldview.  He relates his experience in the Nazi concentration camps and how he discovered the supreme power of choice in responding to adversity.  He ultimately found freedom and a certain amount of joy in his captivity that the Nazi’s couldn’t take from him.  Save for those who are in abusive relationships we do not live in the conditions that Frankel suffered.  If we are in easier circumstances we can certainly find the power to choose how we respond to our environment.

2. It limits your choices to act within those circumstances.

Simply put being “realistic” puts blinders on you and limits you to what is seen, and it blocks faith, which is the ability to see that which is yet unseen to quote the Book of Hebrews in the New Testament.

3. Ultimately, when you see yourself as in charge of yourself and how you feel, you are liberated from the ups and downs of life and you get your power back.

Regardless of where you are, what you are doing, or who you are with.  You are ultimately in charge of your life and how you respond to life, even if you have yet to realize it.

Have ideas about realism or positive thinking?  Please leave your comments below!


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